Orgasms Are for Moms Too
WOMEN’S HEALTH INCLUDES SEXUAL HEALTH
Women’s health has taken a backseat in our modern medicalized world. I won’t go into the extensive history and all the reasons why this is the case, but it is. Part of women’s health is sexual health - which starts with the ability to be educated about our anatomy and to choose pleasure without shame.
As a pelvic floor therapist specializing in pregnancy and postpartum conditions, I have found that the majority of my clients report DISSATISFACTION with their sexual health. This dissatisfaction includes:
not being interested in sex but wanting to be
having pain with penetration
difficulty with orgasm or lack of orgasm
feeling like they just don’t have the time
THE CLITORIS
A significant number of women have difficulty achieving orgasm - or never have. This is something we talk about in pelvic floor therapy, and I’m often the first person who has ever asked the question. When someone has never had an orgasm, they’re often embarrassed, feel broken, and brush it under the rug as “not a priority in therapy”. It’s not surprising when we think about our lack of education and culture that often shames female sexuality. But this is not okay. How many men do you know who’ve never had an orgasm?
The majority of women achieve orgasm with clitoral stimulation - not penetrative sex. It makes sense that we’d have difficulty with orgasm if we don’t fully understand our anatomy. The full anatomy of the clitoris wasn’t even studied or published until the late 1990s/early 2000s. The primary anatomical structure that provides the ability to orgasm for the majority of women was published for the first time in the past 20 years. The clitoris contains 8000 + nerve fibers that go way beyond the “nub” and can unlock amazing sexual experiences - most women have never been taught about their own body.
PRIORITIZING YOUR SEXUAL HEALTH
Here’s the thing though- it takes time to get to know yourself sensually and sexually. It takes work to get through the years of shame or stories from our culture that you’ve internalized. It takes time to appreciate your body just the way it is.
I am in the business of helping people have BETTER s3x. Pain free isn’t the goal. Pleasure is the goal!! Moms deserve orgasms too. It takes time to get to know yourself, to tell your partner what you need, to prioritize the foreplay, and to have incredible sex. You’re worth it. If you disagree, I’m here to hold space for the story you’re telling yourself. You’re worth more than pain-free sex. You’re worth mind-blowing sex!
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Written by: Dr. Courtney Trocinski